I’ve been thinking a lot about raising my daughter, and how to actually raise her to be successful, not just in a typical educational sense, but as a full being. I think this is one of the main reasons society is suffering the way it is. Most people just have no idea what could be achieved if children were taught, from a very young age, self awareness.
From what I’ve noticed, most people today are completely unaware of themselves. It’s an extremely important part of living a healthy lifestyle.
I’m sure many people have probably heard about body language, and how your moods change the way you carry yoursel. I will also assume most are aware that it works the opposite way too. People can usually tell if someone is happy or depressed by the way they are walking. A depressed person might hunch their shoulders a big and probably look towards the ground, maybe with a certain expression on their face, while a happy person would be completely opposite.
You may have even heard of the superhero pose, and how using it can boost confidence.
I listened to a lot of Tony Robbins when I was cooking at my last job, and he explains in depth how you can psyche yourself up by using this to your advantage. It’s even been proven many times over that just forcing yourself to smile can improve your mood. Obviously it would take some effort on your part to do this, but it’s entirely possible.
I believe people have known this for quite some time, and think that is where some of the old sayings come from. I’m sure you’ve probably heard some of them from your parents, teachers, or anyone else that may have been in your life.
Sit up straight!
Elbows off the table!
Turn that frown upside down!
I have come to realize that the majority of these little sayings that were handed down over generations actually had significant meaning. For example…
Put a sweater on before you catch cold!
This is a really telling one because it was changed over the years into, “Put a sweater on before you catch a cold”, obviously once germ theory took hold, people adapted, but the truth is starting to come out, and these people knew all along that you didn’t catch a cold (virus), but they were actually simply saying that you would get cold, as in temperature only.
Anyways, back to the original point.
These were likely put into use to literally transform someone from a sad gloomy state, into a better one.
It wasn’t just the parents being controlling because they were anal, but it was them trying to teach this to their children, although maybe not a very effective way.
Self Awareness Theory
Self awareness is the ability to recognize what your body does automatically, and being able to realize, and notice and manipulate it to your advantage, essentially. You are not your thoughts, but you are the one observing your thoughts, they are not automatic, and you can alter them to your advantage once you notice this.
The American Psychological Association (n.d.) defines self-awareness theory as “ the consequences of focusing attention on the self. ” Much of the research and literature available today distinguishes between two types.
And here’s another more in depth explanation of it.
The first is subjective self-awareness. We are the source of all our perceptions and behaviors. The world revolves around us based on our observations and experience.
The second is objective self-awareness. Duval and Wicklund, whom you will read about later, sought to define this. It is the idea that we compare ourselves to others and some standard of correct behavior. These comparisons in behaviors, attitudes, and traits all contribute to our sense of self-awareness (APA, n.d.). - Positive Psychology
I first heard about this concept after reading A New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle but there are many many other resources to familiarize yourself if your not already.
If you are able to consciously observe yourself, you will be able to notice your emotions and how they are affecting you as it happens and make a decision to alter your current state.
Here are some benefits of Self Awareness, by no means exhaustive.
- enriched emotional intelligence and greater empathy and listening skills;
- improved critical-thinking skills and decision making;
- strengthened communications and relationships; and
- enhanced leadership capabilities and capacity. - InstituteForPR
So why is it that I was alive for 15+ years of my life before I even heard this concept?
I think it was by design, because if people were taught this as children, the majority of us wouldn’t be living this depressive, consumer based lifestyle.
What’s Next For Us
We are at a pivital point in history, and I believe that what happens in the next few months or years will have the greatest impact on the way our children (and us) live our day to day life.
Why is it that everyone is asking for the government to eliminate our rights, to forcefully make everyone wear a mask out in public?
Why can’t people choose to wear masks themselves and be cool with it?
Why can’t people actually be aware enough about their bodies to figure out what it was that actually made them sick in the first place?
I’ll tell you why…
It’s because our inherit nature has been deprogrammed from us, since birth, through this constant slew of marketing and programming!
If everyone that ever got a flu shot, was self aware enough to notice how they felt after that shot, nobody would ever get one again!
It is insane to me that regardless of the information presented to us, people could even believe that someone coughing on them made them sick? How about noticing that all that sugar and shit food you’ve been eating for the last year (while likely feeling like garbage immediately afterwards) could have been the real cause of your sickness?
I belive that if everyone with a child, focused on this one thing, the world would be an ENTIRELY different place. I will do my best to educate my daughter in self awareness, and everyone else should be doing the same thing. Nobody is going to save us, it is up to us to create a new mindset for the next generation, because society has been rigged from the start.